How Becoming A Girl Mom Shifted Something In Me

Like MANY women - I started my journey from a place of disgust for my body.

It was a cycle l'd struggled with for most of my life.

Maybe you're familiar with it:

  • Beat yourself up for how you eat, drink & never work out.

  • Try something (diet, workout program, etc).

  • Quit when change doesn't happen fast enough or when you "mess up."


The changes to my body post kids brought on a new level of shame. My inner critic got louder.

But as a new girl mom, something in me had a stronger desire to change. CONTRO

At the time, I didn't know what that something was so I did what I always did... started the journey from the same place I always had, "I must change, I'm so gross."

But this time, I tossed in a new step:

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The more I got into it, the more I realized it was the missing piece.

It wasn’t a specific “diet” or a certain workout.

It was the story I told myself, that was the work.

✨I had to become someone who believed I was capable of achieving something I’d never done & stop using past attempts as my evidence for why I should just quit before I even start.

✨I practiced being more compassionate with myself.

✨I was no longer in a hurry to change so I could feel acceptable. I WAS acceptable, no matter my shape or size.

✨I had to get to know my body & get more in tune with what worked for me; not the results I thought I wanted based off of what I saw other people achieve.

✨I was more focused on how I wanted to take care of myself, realistically (not quick fixes or unsustainable options).

As I worked through this, changes came naturally without pressure.

What can you do to start on this path? 👇🏼

✨Practice accepting (or loving) yourself throughout the journey.

✨Don’t make yourself miserable trying to reach your goals because you’ll still be miserable when you get there. The same brain goes with you.

✨You’re a perfect & worthy human just as you are BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t also be a work in progress. Those 2 concepts can coexist.

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Self Acceptance Myth

Yes! You can accept the amazing human you are in this moment AND still (want to) make changes.

It’s being able to say:
“I embrace the current version of myself, imperfections & all. I’m whole & worthy as I am AND I’m ready to see what I’m capable of.”

Self acceptance is kind of a big deal when it comes to not treating yourself like an asshole, whether you want change or not.

Acceptance leads you into more of what’s possible.

You become kinder, more compassionate towards yourself. (Less of that shitty self talk…)

You stop looking so hard for external validation because you know how awesome you are.

Your confidence goes up! (and they stay there…HA, IYKYK.)

And the journey towards achieving your goals becomes a little lighter, more freeing, less rushed & way more fun.

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I can help you achieve that. Work with me.

Weight Between Your Ears

Y’all keep trying to change the weight on your body with a new diet or some other fad but you haven’t even addressed the weight between your ears.

You’re going to keep creating the same results if you keep thinking the same damn thing.

If you want different results - you have to look at what’s going on inside.

“The weight between my ears?”

  • Basically stories that hold you down & keep you in a cycle.

When it comes to your body, it can be:

  • Rules or messaging from diet culture & our society.

  • Emotional eating and/or mindless eating.

  • Subpar relationship with your body.$hitty stories you have about your body.

  • Thoughts you may have about your ability to change your habits or be someone who ________.
    (insert your story here).

  • All or nothing thinking.

If you are stuck in ANY area of your life (with your bod, jobs, relationships) & it feels like you’re living in ground hog day, that’s where I come in - let’s chat.

Click here to work with me 1:1.

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Fajita Bowls + Diet Drama

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Ok, it has been a minute since I shared a recipe or meal that I loved but I had an ah-ha moment this evening - part of what I do as an Empowerment Coach for women is help you learn to enjoy food again without diet drama - so why not start to share recipes from time to time.

Clearly, if you have ever been to my blog, you know a huge part of my life USED to be coming up with simple recipes. (If you want to jump to recipe, scroll down.)

I loved to cook and bake but somewhere along the way, I lost that. I stopped enjoying it because it just became something I tied to my weight. If the food I ate wasn’t making the scale go down fast enough, I would suddenly become tired of said food or think I needed to restrict more. It was an unhealthy thought process and you can see how the cycle worked. It’s almost the same way when people tie their workouts to their weight and stop when the scale doesn’t do what they want. The same can happen with cooking or baking.

OR you just get tired of trying to figure out container counts, macros and other BS ways to restrict your food intake unless it was laid out for you so you would go for the same recipes OVER and OVER, eventually getting sick of them.

The hardest steps for rebuilding a relationship with food can be…

  • knowing you don’t have to measure, count calories or macros in order to know when to stop.

  • not restricting the amount of toppings you eat with a meal because someone told you to limit your healthy fat (i.e. “blue container”) intake.

  • finding recipes you want to cook & eat because so many years of dieting can steal the joy of both from you.

You can rebuild your relationship with yourself, relearn to trust your own intuition. Get to know your body without someone else’s rules telling you what to do / not do.

When you do the work to ditch diet drama and do what sounds good & feels right for you when it comes to food there will still be days that are harder than others to turn down the noise on what diet culture has ingrained in your brain but you will have the tools in your back pocket to turn UP the volume on YOU because when it comes down to your bod, you really do know what’s best.

RECIPE:

What You Need:
-Marinated Steak - here is the recipe I used, it was fab. I only marinated it for an hour due to time.
-Fajita Veggie Mix - I buy precut at the store.
-Poblano Pepper - wanted a little extra heat.
-Trader Joe’s Spanish Rice

Toppings (Optional)
Guac
Sour Cream
Salsa
Cheese
Tortilla Chips (I love a good crunch)

Obvi I am not here to give you counts or measurements on how much to eat - you do you, dear.

Side Note: These new Caraway pans are amazing. We got them on Black Friday and they were a steal. Easy to cook in and even easier to clean…although you will have to ask Aaron about the cleaning part, I cook and thankfully he helps clean up.