It took me a minute to realize that the body of a person who consumes 1200 calories a day IS NOT the same as the person who lives life and has a healthy relationship with themselves AND food. But it made for great before and after photos…with every single program. Gain a little, lose a little, share the results. Again, solid business plan in ANY diet space.
Those before and after photos were promising women results that may not have even been realistic to them because there are SO MANY factors that go into each of our indivial shapes and sizes.
As someone who has a strong desire to help women to feel empowered in the skin they’re in (& around food), I now see how damaging promising an after body result can be.
At the time, I was doing the best I could with what I knew & now I know better.
Women look at that after pic, typically NOT a body like our own and think we NEED to look like them in order to be good enough.
We need the flat stomach and the thigh gap.
And we need to do whatever it takes to get there - even if it f*cks with our bodies. And minds.
Those pictures promise something that is not a reality for many of us.
Yet we set out to reach these unrealistic goals through unrealistic diets and wonder “what the fuck is wrong with me” when our body doesn’t look like theirs and we can’t stick to the damn food plan. “UGH, if only we had more self control, right?!”
We think if our body can just look like the ones we see plastered all over social media then we’ll be happier and more worthy.
We want someone to hand us the next best thing. The newest fad that is SURE to work.
I tried MANY diets. I searched for it for YEARS.
Until I realized it doesn’t exist and I could no longer stand behind what I used to preach.
Yes, I’d thought I’d found a true lifestyle change. But the more I submersed myself in life and mindset coaching, the more I noticed my relationship with food was messy and it stemmed from a lifetime of diet rules.
It was all an inside job that only I could unlock.
Same for you, mama, you gotta do the inside work.
Another diet, injection or purple tea will not be the answer.
Your problems won’t magically disappear if you drop 4 pant sizes.
Confidence and happiness are an inside job.
Diets don’t work. (Yes, there are studies to prove it. Ask the googles.)
But working on your relationship with food + your body does.
I spent YEARS thinking my body was a problem to be solved. And selling many of you that same message.
I was living to fix my body more than I was living IN my body.
Obsessing over what food was good or bad.
Feeling guilty for what I would eat or for going off plan.
I was fixated on the outside when the only thing that needed love was the version of me who had succumbed to diet culture for the better part of my life.
And I see so many other women doing the same.
Which is why I’ve made it my mission to help women kick 'shitty self-talk' to the curb and say buh-bye to society's standards. Oh and ditch diet drama - duh!
If you’re reading this and you feel this message on a deep level, then it might be time to start questioning what you REALLY want.
If you aren’t ready to say peace out to diet culture just yet, that’s fine, you get to write your own story. I’m not here to judge your choices.
I’m here to share what I know and learned so that I can help women take their power back.
Take what you need. Leave what is not for you.
And remember that I’m always one direct message (for my social media peeps) or contact me away from being your coach.
Disclaimer:
1) I still love the workouts and the trainers, although I don’t use the platform as often these days.
2) This is MY personal experience as a customer and a coach. I use the term WE but I’m not speaking on behalf of my personal customers. It is not my place to tell their stories although I am certain there are people out there who feel this way.
