You didn't fail - diets don't work.

THE CYCLE….

• Do a diet.

• Follow it (almost) perfectly.

• Stop said diet program for whatever reason only to do 1 of 2 things…

• Go into maintenance (which is a “break” from your diet).

• OR end up binging because of previous restrictions.
  

• Start to gain the weight back.

• Get hard on yourself because clearly “something is wrong with you” since you can’t seem to keep the weight off.
  

What you aren’t realizing is that

• Your 1200 calorie body size is NOT the same as your body size that will naturally fall into place if you’re listening to your gut (no pun intended) when it comes to eating.

• Everytime you restrict, you’ll likely binge after because your brain thinks it needs to eat ALL the food it may not get again.

• If you were to cut the bullshit & look into what is going on when you overeat, emotionally eat or mindlessly eat - that you’d be more likely to find your bodies natural weight without diets & food restrictions.

• You are constantly searching outside of yourself for someone to tell you how to eat instead of being your own guide on what you need.

• When you dig into future you & what feels best for her - you’d be able to ditch diet culture & do what feels good for you + your body without the pressure.
  

The good news…you’re not broken.

You’re not a failure if you regained weight after a diet.

You’re not a failure if you overate over the weekend.

You’re not a failure. PERIOD.

The diet industry has failed you by leaving out a cruical piece.
(Side note: the diet industry was also intentionally made to keep you coming back.)

If your program isn’t addressing your eating habits & the WHY behind them - if your programs rule of thumb when you “go off track” is to just get back on track (duh, why didn’t I think of that…) without addressing wtf is going on - then it’s missing what you need most.

If you’re anything like I was, you’re spending countless hours trying to figure out why the f*ck you just can’t seem to lose the weight AND keep it off.

It’s time to change that - take back your life, stop obsessing over how to lose the weight & what you can or can’t eat & dive into what feels right for you that is sustainable.

Contact me for a free consult to see how 1:1 coaching can help you break the cycle.

Taylor Swift & Shitty Self Talk

Let’s chat about a favorite topic of mine:
Shitty Self Talk

A sweet girl (for real though, who isn’t sweet at a TS concert?!?!) took this pic & handed me my phone back..I looked at the picture & right away, the old thoughts about myself started creeping in.

Look, there’s no perfect world where we’re void of the negative thoughts - even the ones we’ve done the work on - BUT THERE IS MAGIC IN LEARNING TO MANAGE THEM! Yes, I’m yelling at you with love because THIS is the work.

Managing your inner mean girl is some of the best work you can do with a coach (ahem, me).
Coaching helped me see where I was being so damn hard on myself and how to turn the volume down on my inner critic - which was even more important to me when I became a girl mom.

I heard the thoughts coming at the concert but that does not mean I let them stick around.

Instead, I let them pass on by like a cloud but not witout a little internal pep talk to help my brain remember whose boss:
“Brain, that’s so cute you want to offer me those thoughts right now, but the new me won’t let you take over or ruin my night of fun.”

Insert TS brag here: She has created THE best fan base. Compliments were FLOWING and there wasn’t a single person there that we interacted with that wasn’t kind & amazing. Swifties, you are truly the best.

If I’d let any ounce of self consciousness take hold in the past, I’d be ALL UP IN MY HEAD all night - how I looked, not wanting to take pics (or hating every one we took), being more quiet than usual, obsessing over what I ate and not enjoying myself or the people I was out with - but now I can let those thoughts roll on by - just because my brain likes to test me from time to time doesn’t make the thoughts true. Plus this night at TS was not about me or what my brain THOUGHT I looked like in a picture - it was about making memories and having moments with my baby girl. And we did just that.

Look, we all do it. Sometimes we aren’t even aware we’re doing it AND how often it plays out in our lives, especially in front of our little ones.

This is something I struggled with in my own life, so I get it. When I had my daughter something shifted in me. Through some self discovery I started to become aware of the little things I was saying and doing that I could potentially pass on to her. I didn’t want that for me or for her. I wanted to do the work to show up more confident so I did not have to constantly worry that I was passing my own insecurities onto her.

I didn’t want her to hear:
Me constantly talking about a diet or good/bad food.
That I needed to go workout so I could earn my meal on a holiday.
Me mumble under my breath that I looked like shit in the outfit I just put on for the night.
Me telling my friend to delete a picture that I look gross in or “ew, don’t post that.”

I didn’t want her to catch on to:
Me telling her no to something because of how I felt about myself.
Me hiding in pictures.
Me covering myself up because I felt ashamed of my body.

The words matter. She was and is still watching, listening and soaking it all up like a little sponge. I wanted to reframe how I was talking about myself.

Those words may be subtle but they’re there, (sometimes without us even knowing) making an impact on how we carry ourselves and how we show up.

Diet culture was strong for us growing up. Our moms probably tried it all and we took notes.

We watched them yo-yo diet, talking about their bodies & food. This is to no fault of their own. They did the best they could with what they had - and what they had was pressure from society/culture.

And as we become aware that we may be following some of those same patterns, we can aim to do better. (Do not confuse better with being perfect. We’re still humans.)

It’s no wonder we’re in this place as women thinking we’re not worthy if we don’t match what the women on the cover of magazines look like. And whether we realize it or not, for most of us, that kind of thing sticks with you as you grow up. Many of us still live with those beliefs today. And the more we let them hang around, the more likely we are to pass them onto our daughters.

Let me stop here and say, this is NOTHING to feel shame or guilt about - ever - between societies standards, how we were raised, our brains negativity bias & now social media - the odds have been against us - but that is shifting!

And it starts with us. Let’s change how we talk to ourselves. How we talk about food. And exercise. Let’s reduce the chatter.

If this is something you are ready to work on and dig deeper into - let’s chat to see how coaching can help you stop the cycle.

Maren wanted to do a outfit transition - thought I would share! You can find more videos of our night on my TikTok or IG account.

Creating Belief

Raise your hand if you’ve ever said, “I’ve tried everything & nothing works…”

Now, I’m going to ask you a question...

HAVE YOU TRIED BELIEVING IN YOURSELF?!

People ask me how I‘ve gotten results over the years.

I could tell you that it was JUST nutrition & exercise.

I could tell you it was discipline. Or willpower (which is BS by the way, but we will save that for another day).

But what really drove my results? BELIEF

I had to drop the old beliefs that did not serve me.

In the past, I wasn’t able to commit or change because of the BS story I was telling myself about my eating habits, my weight, my body…

So I had to BELIEVE that I could do ALL the things to become the healthiest version of me.

Belief that…
I was worth it.
I was someone who listened to her body.
I could be someone who was healthier.
I could be the person who had a better relationship with food.
I could be someone who exercised regularly.
I was a mom with more energy for herself & her kids.
I deserved to be someone who felt good in her skin.

And I had to work freaking hard to BELIEVE I was THAT version, before she even existed, in order to become her.

And those are the thoughts I still choose to practice on the daily.

What do you believe about yourself right now? But what do you REALLY WANT to believe? What you believe is what you create, so decide what you want to believe. And practice the shit out of it.
Every freaking day.

And if you need a coach to help you find that belief & version of you - it’s me. Hi, I’m the coach, it’s me. :) Click here to set up a consult.

Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself!

Who sang that? Just me? Cool…

I thought I would give a little update on me as a coach & what working with me is all about!

I’m an Empowerment Coach who helps women kick 'shitty self-talk' to the curb and say BUH-BYE to society's standards.

I enable my clients to make choices that light themselves up and achieve the body they want on their own terms.

What that means is, we get you where you want to be but without being a total asshole to yourself AND we make sure you have some fun along the way!

No more:
-Waking up, looking in the mirror & giving power to all of the shitty self talk swirling in your brain, around your body.
-Thinking your body needs to be a certain size or shape because of what you see on social media.
-Yo-yo dieting or restricting then going hog wild on some ice cream because you “couldn’t eat it” for 21 days (been there, done that). And then proceeding to think you are a broken or a failure.
-Hanging onto rules you learned from past diets that no longer serve you.
(i.e. color coded containers, point systems, ya know what I mean..)
-Hiding behind other people in pictures.
-Being scared to be seen in a swimsuit in public.
-Comparing your body to others.
-Needing to overwork at the gym to “make up for what you ate.”
-Telling yourself that “there’s no hope - so why bother.”
-Constantly thinking about food (at least not in a way that makes you anxious).
-Needing to “start over.”

Say hello to a world where you:
-Live more freely without fear of weight gain.
-Do shit for YOU without the guilt.
-Worry less about what others think of you / your body.
-Have better relationships (yes, with yourself AND others).
-Decide what feels good to you & roll with it! (TRUST yourself!)
-Have more confidence. Ya know, stand a little taller. Turn heads when you walk in a room. AND rock ANY swimsuit.
-Believe in your ability to reach your goals & get shit done!
-Embrace YOUR ideal body.
-Feel lighter & happier!

We get super clear on your WHY & from there we decide what it is that YOU want. And then you create the results YOU want based on YOUR terms.

Example 1:
You want to work with a nutritionist (not me, I’m not the nutrionist) to clean up your eating habits but maybe you have a lot of thoughts about how it won’t work, you’ve failed before, etc - that’s where I come in as your coach & we clean that shit up! (Shit = Thoughts)

Example 2:
You actually like where you’re at right now but sometimes you get super judgemental of yourself, compare yourself to others, don’t feel confident when you walk into a room so you want to lower the volume on the shitty self talk & raise the volume on thoughts that leave you feeling confident & empowered. I got you.

Example 3:
You know you need to change, but aren’t sure where to start OR you’ve tried it all but keep ending up back in the same place. We can work together to tackle BS that is holding you back them back from reacing your goals without the pressure to be perfect.

These are just THREE examples - but there are so MANY other reasons we could and should work together. If you are unsure if we’re a fit - click here to set up a free consult.

PS - I hang out mostly over on IG, you can find me there for more.